January 2012
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I know it's real when...
…there are no words left to describe how I feel.
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“Your mind is a pot of thoughts and your attitude is the aroma of your thoughts....”
– Khulani Chiliza
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“The NGOs go from project to project without... →
This article is heart-breaking. As I read, I compared the NGO-constructed tent areas in Haiti to the self-constructed Occupy camps (& an activist’s negative experience with Occupiers).
I’m reminded to be careful that my help does not become an albatross.
Do we offer our help because we want to enrich the other person or because helping serves our own ego needs? If both, which...
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Decolonize your hearts and minds. →
cultureofresistance:
A lot of the indigenous people with whom I’ve worked have said to me that the first and most important thing any of us needs to do is decolonize our hearts and minds. Decolonization is the process of breaking your identity with and loyalty to this culture—industrial capitalism specifically, and more broadly civilization—and remembering your identification with and loyalty to...
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Digesting a new term for an old concept →
Excerpt from “Not Everyone’s Laughing at ‘Shit White Girls Say to Black Girls’”:
You think talking about “big” racial issues like loan discrimination and redlining and police brutality against black men is hard? It’s often a lot easier than discussing race-based “microaggressions.” Microaggressions is a word coined by psychiatrist Chester M. Pierce, meaning “brief...
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Did you guys hear what the FBI did today?
isitis:
stfuconfederates:
deliciouskaek:
iamateenagefeminist:
They officially redefined rape to include male and female victims and removed the word “forcible” so that rapes that are not committed via physical force count as rape.
A victory for rape victims everywhere.
ALL OF THE CLAPPING GIFS. ALL OF THEM.
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“There is nothing that infuriates hypocrisy more than somebody who holds up a...”
– Aida Gundersen
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space gypsy: 2012 →
spacegypsy:
People talk about burning bridges like it’s always a bad thing. What if a bridge just connects you to a place where you do not, never have, and won’t ever belong?
What if a bridge only links you to a place of loneliness, uncertainty, and imbalance - a place where human relationships are defined…
I love this realization/exploration. Learning when to hold on and when to let...
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"10 Steps for Arguing Instead of Fighting" →
“Healthy couples don’t fight - they argue.” Exactly. Emotionally mature people know how to turn a fight into an argument and an argument into a solution. I try my best to stay away from people who enjoy fighting (but call it “debate”). I also avoid people who deny that they are fighting or arguing when it’s clear that they are in disagreement. Both types of...
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"Avoiding the Urge to Numb Pain" →
“Suffering is not caused by pain but by resisting pain.” - Unknown
Enlightening article.
December 2011
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"10 Ways To Know If You're Ready For An Open... →
6. You need to know your gender role. Whether you are male or female, you have to understand Yin and Yang. You cannot be outside of your role and accomplish this properly. You will have to work with loads of individuals and there will need to be proper yin and yang in place in those relationships. If you are masculine as a woman relating to a masculine man, you will create serious issues in...
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blancofuego asked: i was looking at luther vandross stuff and saw ur post. i agree 100 percent that people nowadays have no idea what it it to be romantic. im ashamed that most people in my generation dont even know who luther is. they dont get it when i say he has the best voice ive ever heard and the closest to an angels voice as ill ever hear.
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karbarkalediscope:
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how do I do Kwanzaa? someone explain or link me to simple, step-by-step instructions and please hurry as it does begin tomorrow. thanks in advance.
help my girl out
Step 1. Practice Kujichagulia (self-determination) and Google it yourself.
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“In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one...”
– Ram Dass (via elige)
I’m ready to be naked with someone.
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“I asked God to protect me from my enemies and then I started losing friends!”
– Unknown
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Hide & Seek
Looking for a pearl in an ocean of empty clams, wondering “Where else do clams hang out?”
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That Strong & Silent Type: W.T.F (Worlds To... →
afro-ninja:
The web which we wickedly weave when we worship without wisdom
Wishing with the wind while the web which was weaved so wickedly
Wraps whosoever wishes with the wind
That same wind spreading that wickedly weaved web across the whole wide world
Until it becomes a world wide web.
The thought…
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afro-ninja:
The ability to remove yourself from the situation and yet simultaneously immerse yourself in it is the very essence of wisdom.
It is the gift of being able to see the pieces of the puzzle for both their individual design and their role in the big picture.
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"Branding Soul? Considering The History of Black... →
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Carl Thomas ~ "Don't Kiss Me" →
“I call this album’s songs ‘hero music’ because the hero always wins. In R&B, we’re used to hearing what women want, what they desire (oh really?). But men don’t really express their opinions (what radio is he listening to?). When they do express their opinions, it’s vulgar…to be quite honest with you (ahhhh, why didn’t you lead with this?...
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STUDY: How moms talk influences children's... →
Welp. That explains that. My mom encouraged me as a child to observe others and asked me questions about what I saw and how the other person thinks/feels. Then we discussed it from her view. No wonder switching points-of-view comes “naturally” to me and I get highly irritated with others who don’t (can’t?) do it in discussion. Astrologically: My mom is a Gemini (language,...
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iambeautifulcurare: ethiopienne: Genuine Genuine:... →
ethiopienne:
Genuine Genuine: Perhaps my plight seems made up.
genuineeeegenuinee:
Perhaps I seem to be over exaggerating. Perhaps the plight of Black women in general seems to be made up because I just had a Black man ask me “have you ever really been oppressed because of…
I wonder why the OP can’t find her voice in front of the person who asked her for her opinion…
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"Why Rappers Are Suddenly Speaking Out in Support... →
Warning: Brace yourselves, Humanitarians. It’s not all love. Though we’re slowly moving in that direction…
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“A rapist doesn’t have to be a stranger to be legitimate. Someone you never saw....”
– For Colored Girls (via honestwanderlustheart)
And rape doesn’t require sexual intercourse. It’s any form of unwelcome intrusion or penetration. Handle with care…
Also: The thoughts and feelings expressed in Shange’s choreopoem are so powerful that no one can diminish them.
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Amitābha Néon Skin: 10 Ways to Love Others →
Some guidelines for loving:
1. Tell them about their brilliance. They likely can’t see it and they don’t know its immensity, but you can see it, and you can illuminate it for them.
2. Be authentic, and give others the gift of the real you and a real relationship. Ask your real questions. Share your real beliefs. Go for your real dreams. Tell your truth.
3. Don’t confuse “authenticity” with...
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“Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be...”
– bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions (via daughtersofdilla)
Solitary refinement.
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"Expert: FAMU drum major's autopsy looked like a... →
I’m so disgusted with people right now, including those who jumped on the “hazing isn’t just at black schools!” bandwagon. Duh! Is that the freakin point to you when someone just died because of being beaten to death?! For attending school and playing a drum?! Really?!
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